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Life on the Spectrum

Life on the Spectrum

  • July 10, 2017
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My friend Elaine is one of the best Mums I know.  I don’t just say this because she’s my friend, I say this because it’s true.  Her life as a Mother has brought her satisfaction and joy beyond compare, but for her, every day can be a struggle to reach the peak of that satisfaction.  

She is Mum to 2 beautiful children now aged 20 and 16, and she’ll readily admit that she has brought them up completely differently.  She’ll happily tell...

Hopefulness after Hopelessness

Hopefulness after Hopelessness

  • June 14, 2017
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For a long time after my 3rd baby was born I didn’t cope very well.  I didn’t realise it at the time as I just carried on with life, switching to autopilot to get through the days, but looking back, postnatal depression had set in long before I admitted it to myself, and even longer still before I visited my GP.

Even before my 3rd gorgeous baby girl was born in the summer of 1998, my marriage was pretty much dead. We just existed, sharing a house but not really sharing our lives.  My pregnancy didn’t fit in with my now ex husband’s plans, whatever those plans might have been.  Relatively symptom free, I didn’t suffer too badly with morning sickness, but on one of the days that I did and I asked him for help, his response was “you’ll have to manage. It’s your baby, get on with it!”  So at the age of 26 I had a five year old, a four year old, and a new born baby to look after pretty much solo.

Emma was a clingy baby.  From the moment she was born, if anybody but me picked her up for a cuddle she cried. It could become very draining,...

Raising my Son, the Sensitive One

Raising my Son, the Sensitive One

  • June 06, 2017
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My 9 year old son has been here before. Of that I am sure. I am also equally sure that he was gifted to me, as when he came along, so did my faith.  Don’t get me wrong, I go to Church, but I’m no Bible basher. It’s just that my belief in God has never been so sure and so strong since he arrived.

I think I’ve always known that there’s been something different about him; something special.  Right from when he was tiny, he’s just been so in tune with me.  He can look at me sometimes, and I feel like he’s looking into my very soul, knowing instantly when I’m a little under par and dispensing his own kind of medicine to make me feel better. This ‘medicine’ can be anything from a cuddle (he’s so good at cuddles!), a kiss, or his hand stroking my face coupled with some simple but humbling words: “It’s OK, Mummy. You have me.”  He was quite a late talker, but once he could string a sentence together one of his most common phrases was “are you happy, Mummy?” He would ask this several times a day, reminding me that happiness can be a choice,...

Back to Our Beginnings

Back to Our Beginnings

  • June 06, 2017
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It’s the simple things that make me happy.  Spending time with Mr Sunshine and spending time with my children.  It’s not that often that I get to see my oldest three babies, and rarely all together so I really have to make the most of it when I do.

Daughter number 1 and daughter number 2 came over the other day (daughter number 3 is away at university), and some funny thoughts ran through my head as I watched them interacting with one another. The first was that they’re now older than I was when I gave birth to them.  I couldn’t imagine them having their own children; they’re just not old enough!  The second thought was how we’ve kind of come full circle. My eldest, Laura was too young to remember life before Rebecca, so from the moment they were a two, they really were inseparable.

They stayed that way for a good few years, sharing literally everything.  Although Rebecca was an average size for her age, Laura struggled to put on weight, and for a long time they were the same weight, the same height and more often than not mistaken for twins.  I sometimes worry that I robbed them...

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I’m a 44 year old Mum to three gorgeous grown up girls and a beautiful boy. I live near St Neots in Cambridgeshire. For the last 13 years I’ve been happily attached to Mr Sunshine (aka Dave) who is Dad to our 9 year old son, and his 18 year old daughter.

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